A Much Needed Break For All

I opened the door to Declan’s classroom and a crouched crying Declan fell into the hallway.

Startled, I took a step back.

Declan was holding a pillow and started screaming and banging his head into it.

I looked into the classroom and saw his teacher.  She put her finger up asking for a second, so I closed the door with Declan and I in the hallway.

I was just there as the parent volunteer to listen to little readers.  What happened?

Declan’s teacher came into the hallway.

“Declan and another student were talking, and Declan got frustrated with something the person said, pushed him and started screaming.  I asked Declan to take break to calm down, but he is having a hard time.  His aid was about to take him into the hallway for a walk – would you like to take him instead?”

I nodded.  And when Declan was able, we started to walk.

The past couple of months have been an increasing struggle for Declan.  New problematic behaviors have arisen at school leading to new goals on his behavior chart.  New preferred rewards have been added for him to work towards.

The school and I have worked together to help Declan succeed.  And on good days, the chart works wonders.

On bad days, the chart is just another point of frustration.  Another point of stress.

So far this week I have been enjoying time doing my favorite things.  Running, reading, writing – doing puzzles again!

I am feeling relaxed and refreshed.

As time has worn on this week, I realize I was not the only one ready for a break.

Someone else is happy to be away from school, his routine and his reward chart.

Sometimes I forget how challenging school is for Declan.  I remember first grade being a fun year.  Activities, play time, coloring.  I want Declan to enjoy first grade as well for all the fun it has.

With all the charts, behaviors, rewards – I realize first grade is work for Declan.  And hopefully this break is just what he needs to help him finish this school year with smiles.