“Are there any food groups you just don’t eat?”
A pained look of anxiety landed on my face.
“Vegetables,” Catelyn shuddered at the thought of vegetables and shifted in her paper gown. We were at the doctor’s office for her well visit and next round of immunizations.
And we were in the throes of my least favorite part of the visit.
My kids diet.
“No vegetables, huh? How about fruits. Do you eat any fruits?”
The little hopeful part of me started cheering in my brain, “C’mon, Cate! Tell her you eat fruit!”
“Um, I guess I eat a banana sometimes.”
I smiled and sat up in my chair.
“Alright, bananas. Okay. Anything else?”
“No, not really.”
“How about protein? Do you eat any protein?”
I slouched a little and peeked at Cate.
“No, no protein. I will eat chicken wings at this one restaurant we go to but that is it.”
“Dairy? Do you eat any dairy?”
I started to rub my forehead. Catelyn shrugged. “Not really.”
“Wait! Sometimes you will eat the cotton candy squeezable yogurts!” I offered.
The doctor finally looked excited, “Great! There is dairy and a bit of protein in there!” And made a note in Catelyn’s chart.
“Catelyn has a very limited diet,” I said, “If food is served she doesn’t like she just won’t eat.”
“What would you say she eats?”
“She likes waffles, pancakes, Nilla Wafers, French fries – but only a certain kind. She will eat pizza – but only from certain places. Vanilla ice cream. Froot Loops dry,” and not sure if this was going to help or hurt, I added the final food, “Packages of ramen noodles? I think that’s it.”
The doctor nodded, “Just make sure you give her a multivitamin every day, so she is getting all those nutrients she is missing with food.”
I agreed. The appointment moved on.
I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again.
I live in a household of picky eaters.
Each person (including my husband) will only eat about ten different items.
Of course, they are all different items. No two people eat the same thing. Every night I make five different dinners.
Such is life in a house of sensory issues. I’m okay with it. I know that every one of them would and has chosen to not eat anything than to eat something they find offensive.
I like them to eat. And I hate throwing out food I know they won’t.
Through the years I have tried different tactics to get the kids to try a new food. I talked about those ideas here and here.
In hindsight now I can tell you the biggest influence on my kids’ diet has been their friends.
If they go to a friend’s house they are introduced to new foods. Bobby is the most likely to try a new food AT a friend’s house.
Catelyn is the most likely to take the idea of new food item home and ask me to cook it for her.
Which is how we landed on a steak. A friend had told Catelyn of the wonderous steak and sold the idea on her. Steak was a new food that Catelyn wanted to try.
Again, none of us eat steak. I went to the store and picked one out. I googled how to cook it. I have to say – I impressed myself! Gordon Ramsey look out! Then she sat down to eat.
Pre steak
Post steak
It turns out Catelyn doesn’t like steak.
Although I think the puppy would 😊
Catelyn tried another food item. That’s the good news. And we will keep plucking away at different foods in hopes to find that number eleven item to add to her food list.
Doesn’t like steak? That’s unthinkable! Maybe it wasn’t rare enough…
Maybe! One tooth touched that bite and it was gag face – THEN she asked me what steak was. When I told her cow – well, I think that is the end of steak
Wow, that’s a lot of steak. My kids expand their palate slooowly. A nice recent addition has been curry. About a year ago, they added steak. I find it fairly weird. When I was twelve my favorite foods were steak, lobster and crab (oh and of course pizza which is everyone’s favorite food now). My kids won’t even go to a restaurant where someone might be eating steamed crabs. We’ve tried to expose them to a variety of foods all their life, but they simply say no. Oh well, more asparagus for me.
I was afraid if I got a thin one it would dry out. And deep down, I really didn’t think she was going to like it even if her friend reported it was her most favorite food in the world. So I stuck it right around the $5 range. I was a human garbage disposal as a kid – I would eat anything (Except olives – they are still on the outs). This whole diet thing came from my husband. He only eats a few select things as well and has the same aversions. He loves fruit snacks, but won’t eat Motts because on the box it says “made with real fruit and vegetable juices” (vegetable being the bad word there). And he would love if we would always eat out at pizza shops – but Declan only likes the pizza with the brown spots on it (dominoes) and Catelyn only eats pizza from real pizza shops. Same here – I don’t ever run out of my food as no one has any interest in going near it. Even watching me eat a salad makes Declan visibly gag.
Our son doesn’t like steak. He is really picky. We have a 7 day menu that never changes. Will try to add new stuff but without any success. At least he likes things like tomatoes and peppers and garden peas and carrots and sweet corn. Poor Pup, his sad face.
That is how we operate too! I have the same meals picked out for each one, each day of the week. She really threw me off when she said she wanted steak. But I figured, hey – if she wants to try a new food, let her! I am still surprised that piggish dog can reach the table. She was oh-so hopeful for a little dropping of that steak!
I bet she was. We did the same last week. Son wanted to try sushi. So we bought a takeout. He tried a couple of bites and did the same as Catelyn, We have had the same 7 day menu for years now.
Mine isn’t overly picky, but definitely a minimalist when it comes to what he puts on his food…. On Mondays when he get dinner at Wendy’s, it’s the chicken sandwich dry (nothing on it) and the chicken nuggets with no sauce. Sandwiches are made with meat only, no cheese/no mayo/no sauces. He also hates having cheese on anything (except maybe pizza, of which he’ll only eat cheese pizza) but hebwill eat cheese by itself.
Oh my gosh, yes! That is our whole house as well. No condiments on anything. On our first date at a restaurant my husband”s sandwich came out with mayo on it and he told me he was “allergic” because he didn’t want to appear weird. This “allergy” followed down to all the kids. 🙂 At most they will put butter on toast – but that is it.
I admire your patience! My daughter used to be a very picky eater when she was much younger, but I just kept serving very small portions of what my husband and I eat onto her plate. And there was a lot of waste in the beginning, which the dogs loved, but gradually she started to eat teeny little bits and now she eats almost anything! Took years though 😊
Thank you so much! I am hopeful she will eat more as time goes on. My oldest has just started to broaden his food choices a little bit, like your daughter did. I am hoping she starts eating more as well.
Ha ha! Too good for steak. 😀 My sister-in-law just always brought her son’s chicken nuggets to family parties. Heck, if that’s his Thanksgiving, we’ll take it.
Haha – yes! We are planning Easter now and it looks like chicken nuggets and microwaveable mac n cheese will be tow 🙂
At least she tried something new! That in itself is a win!
I agree – she tried something new, and that in itself is a BIG win 🙂
Awesome post so sorry she didnt like the steak maybe it was to rare. Although I must say It looked great so great job haha. I am pretty positive my husband is on some sort of spectrum and it took me a long time to figure it out but now that we finally have a lot of things make so much more sense. The getting him to eat part drives me insane because I try so hard and getting him to eat is like pulling teeth although he has no real problem with eatting certain things as much as he really only eats becauae he has to. It does make for several arguments but I do have a suggestion for you if your family are into dare and such maybe have a family test night where everyone trys one dinner and who ever eats thru it and actually finishes gets a prize or something. I’m sure youve tryed something similar but just an idea. Maybe even have them all write down what they like about the few foods they enjoy and then afterward see if you find other foods that fit those descriptions 😇💖! Well best of luck in the eating department and great post look forward to reading more. 😎
Thank you so much! May have to try that idea – my kids love a good competition. That is funny too as my husband and I feel he is on the spectrum as well. After years of problematic behavior in school (although when he was tested for the special needs room turns out he was gifted) he was diagnosed and medicated for ADD and he still is. But when they opened up the sensory piece on the autism spectrum all the other quirky behaviors fit autism as well. When he met my parents for the first time I had to write down the 8 things he did eat for our first dinner – they just didn’t understand. Took me awhile too – although I would love them all to try a bit more. May give that idea of yours a go! Thank you!
The two pictures of Catelyn and her steak are so funny. I have seen this response to food again
and again and I must say, I don’t know how we keep going sometimes! I don’t know which is worse – the baby who simply spits the whole thing out or the older child approaching the food clearly convinced it is absolutely poisonous.
Gwen.